Why is it so hard to ask for help?

“Only a fool learns from his own mistakes. The wise man learns from the mistakes of others.” ― Otto von Bismarck One thing I advocate on The Chrissy B Show is the importance of asking for help. Yet, we still seem to find it so difficult. Of course there are a number of psychological barriers - made worse when suffering from depression or anxiety which contribute to reluctance to reach out, but most people worry about: - bothering others - not taking their advice (and then causing an issue in the relationship) -not wanting to look weak or incapable (sometimes exacerbated by our upbringing or past experiences) - wanting to be "the strong one" - as if asking for help damages the identity that

Reframing your internal voice means recognising what it is saying first!

There is a presumption that when we need to "change our internal dialogue" it is because it is negative.  One of the founders of the cognitive approach to depression, Beck c1960s, proposed that the depressed mind generates "negative automatic thoughts" (NATs) which frame our interpretation and can keep us trapped within our sadness.  With the cognitive approach that thoughts preceed behaviour, his form of treatment included reframing those NATs eg:  Instead of "I'm not good enough" - you might reframe this to "I just need to work a little harder on X", or rather than "I'm so rubbish because I'm not making any progress" the reframe may be "It's great how far I've come to this point, I must ha

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